In a society and world that constantly feels rushed, disconnected, and even performative, quiet moments where you can be present without even having to think are really important. Tenderness for me exists in the small rituals that we have every day. Either building a connection, sharing an experience, or even just having it to ourselves, are the meaningful moments of life. This piece is an exploration of a moment that is so simple yet is a deep act of intimacy - gathering around a table for a meal.
This mixed media piece shows my parents moving around the table that we have had our entire lives. It has moved with us through changes, states, and people, but has stayed the same. Five place settings are arranged in the same spots every time, each night, and every person has the same seat. My mom, dad, sister, grandmother, and I. Though there are only two people present, I wanted to show the tension of presence and absence. The point of view is slightly back from the table and has the head chair in the foreground. This invites the viewer into a space that means so much to me, and to sit down and enjoy this intimate moment.
In photographs, I also show the painting in my current dining room space. Recently, I moved out of my parents and created this juxtaposition between my parents table and my own. I wanted this to reflect how much I cherish a shared meal with everyone now, especially since I live on my own. Even though I enjoyed these moments when I lived at home, they are even more significant to me.
I worked in oil pastels, acrylic, charcoal, and plaster, purposely leaving areas raw and unfinished. I did this to reflect how these moments never really end. While logically they do, I will always have these special moments with me, forever. I will hold onto this tenderness of my family that will continue to push me through hard moments in life, and I can always come back to this table. The layering and textured surfaces reflect time passing, really emphasizing being present over perfection. The materials emphasize the tenderness of this moment, each mark made purposely, and each unfinished edge a reminder of a lived moment.
This piece explores tenderness as a simple yet powerful act of showing up for one another. Highlighting that human connection is not always immediate or fully grabbing our attention, but built through care, time, and attention. By focusing on the ritual of my family meal, I reflect on the humanity of the world that is often overlooked. At the Table embodies emotional connection, presence, and the courage to take a moment and reflect and really live life fully, even through the small moments of tenderness.
